Hey, there. I'm a polyamorous bi guy (married to a woman and dating a man). We live in beautiful Ashland, Oregon, where we help out on the family hobby farm. I'm the co-owner of a small golf company and an aspiring filmmaker. We are organizers for amBi, LA's Bi Social community.
What being bisexual means to me
For me, being bisexual is just the way I am. I couldn't be any other way. I've wanted a wife and a husband for as long as I have been dating people.
What I would like the world to know about bisexuals
God! If people would just acknowledge that we exist, that'd make my day. I mean - here I am. Actually romantic with two people, one female and one male. Look at me. I'm here.
What was your path to a bisexual identity?
Well, I've been aware of being bisexual since before I knew the word for it. Before I knew what to call it, I found myself drawn to certain individuals - male and female.
What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?
I guess, the toughest thing is being so invalidated by our culture - so much so that even friends and family are dumbfounded. I would LOVE to simply be called a sinner. That'd be an improvement over being told I am not real.
What is the best thing about being bisexual?
It is freeing, really. The opportunity to explore whatever relationship I like, without concerning myself with conforming to labels. Society wants me to "pick a team." And I don't have to. It's my life.
How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?
LOL. I remember when I came out to my mom. I think it would have been easier if I said I was gay. At least then I would have fit into her paradigm. But the bisexual thing blew her mind.
What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?
If you find yourself sexually and/or romantically attracted to some women and some men (even if you have a general preference), that means you aren't 100% gay or straight. Identifying openly as bi is a different thing, though. That's up to you. But, believe me, it feels so good to accept yourself and come out.