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Is everyone bisexual?

In short, no.  Roughly 2.2% of women and 1.4% of men self-identify as bisexual.  The number of people whose behavior is bisexual, but who choose to label themselves as straight, gay, or lesbian, is certainly much higher – about 3 to 4 times that – but still represents less than 10% of the population.

It’s not uncommon to hear people say things like “everyone is bisexual, deep down.”  While usually well-intended, it’s not a particularly helpful comment. First of all, it’s simply not true. Most people are exclusively heterosexual. It’s neither fair or accurate to say that the majority is harboring secret same-sex attractions. Secondly, while sounding like a validation, these kinds of statements can actually contribute to bi erasure. Bi people are a significant proportion of the population, the second largest sexual orientation there is. Bi is a distinct and concrete sexuality, and bi people are a lot more than open-minded heterosexual or gay/lesbian people.


Like being straight and being gay, being bisexual is something that happens sometimes. I'm bisexual, but my husband is straight. If my husband were a woman, I would still be in love with her and want to have sex with her. But if the situation were reversed, and I had been born a man, my husband would no longer be interested in me. (One of many discussions we've had.) We would be friends if I were a man, but no matter how in love I was with him, he wouldn't date or marry me.

So he's really straight, and I'm really bisexual.


No absolutely not. The fact that bisexuality is not enough taken into account or represented does not mean that everybody is bisexual. And of course it also does not mean in any manner that bisexuality is superior to homosexuality or heterosexuality. It just is.


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