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Are all bi people polyamorous?

Bisexuality and polyamory are two separate identities. One does not cause the other.  Bisexuality is the ability to be attracted to more than one biological sex. Polyamory means that a person is able to maintain a romantic relationship with more than one person at the same time. There are many straight, gay, lesbian, and bisexual people who are polyamorous, just as there are many who are not.


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I am! My wife is! The men we date are! But, no, not all bisexuals are polyamorous. I wish.

You see, my wife and I have been dating bi men together, with the intention of finding "a third," a mutual husband. The number of attractive eligible guys who would be interested, but who are monogamous and therefore, uninterested in a couple, is staggering. It's discouraging for us. But for the other monogamous folks out there, it's good news.

Variety is the spice of life, right? Bi folks come in all shapes and sizes, monogamous and poly. I have many bi friends who are as true to their monogamous partners as any. If I could turn them to the dark side, I would. BELIEVE ME. ;)

-Rio

I'm bisexual and NOT polyamorous. I can't even imagine that kind of lifestyle. When I think of having to split my time, as a lover, between my husband and someone else, I know I couldn't do it, even if I wanted to. I don't want to share my husband, and he definitely doesn't want to share me.

-Amaryn

ABSOLUTELY NOT! I am bisexual and very much monogamous. I have read tons on the topic of polyamory and I don't personally believe in polyamory or open relationships. I feel that if you are in a "committed" relationship, the focus should be on continuously strengthening that relationship, not adding extra players. "RelationSHIPS sink when there are too many passengers."
For me, physical monogamy and emotional monogamy go hand in hand.

-Jonathan

Let me begin by saying I am in a triad (a three person household: my girlfriend, our boyfriend, and myself), and for us poly works very well. We are in a committed relationship, and feel that our commitment is no different than a two person relationship.
The three of us are committed emotionally and physically, and are no different than any other family. We have our ups and downs, good times and bad. We realize we are a family and work things out.

That being said, not all bisexuals are poly, just as not all straight couples are poly.

-John

My wife and I are currently monogamous. However, if the right man, woman, or couple came along we would be open to exploring a new relationship.

-Thomas

Short answer: no.

Bisexual people can be polyamorous (or any other version of ethical non-monogamy), the same as straight, gay, asexual etc. people can be, and they can all be monogamous too.

I am polyamorous, but married to a monogamous husband.

-Vicky


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